I
have two types of crushes—there is the casual crush that is usually
directed toward the guy I see across the commons at lunch or the girl
who makes my tea at Starbucks. They are fun little in-the-moment bits of
fantasy. Occasionally these crushes turn into friendships because when I
am attracted to someone I usually find a way to speak with them.
Sometimes the crush doesn’t survive the friendship, but every once in
awhile it becomes something more—it grows up and becomes a full-fledged
Crush.
A
Crush is friendship with a side of possibility that need never be
fulfilled. A Crush isn’t about sex, it is about feeling the energy
coming off of someone and having it mesh so well with your own that you
just know that this is something different—that this person will be
special in your life, even if it is only for a short time.
At
the moment I probably have a dozen or so crushes—including a few long
standing ones on celebrities (David Tennant, anyone?) I also have several Crushes--one or two of which will probably exist as long as I do.
My
C/crushes are not specific to gender or orientation, and they care
nothing for age or physical appearance. There are some basic traits that I
could point to that make them more likely to occur, but I have crushed
on men twenty years younger than me and men 30 years older. I have
crushed on girls who feed me geeky puppy energy and butches who make me quiver. There is just no telling what part of a
person is going to speak to me. I like it that way because it means that
every new person I meet has Crush potential.
