State of the Union

When I started this blog, I was in a power-exchange relationship with a man who had another full-time partner. From there I moved onto a triad without power-exchange, and an on-again, off-again relationship with my best friend. I then enjoyed some time as a single poly person—all of which is well documented throughout this site.

When I stopped writing the blog, I was just starting a new relationship after several months of emotional reboot and evaluation of what I want, both in kink and non-monogamy. I didn't make a conscious decision to stop, I just found myself writing less and less as my life got busier and more complicated with major life changes and travels near and far. 

So, now I am ready to write again--and this is where my non-monogamous life stands:

I am now living with my love—the new relationship mentioned above, the man with whom I want to build a life filled with adventure, and sensuality, and Doctor Who. He has a play partner/lover in another state, and I have a former lover who recently became a current lover, also in another state. His situation is somewhat regular, I have no idea what mine will be—my guess is good friends who get together once a year or so to spend time together. We also have a few casual non-sex partners that allow us to explore other types of play. This all sounds much more simplistic than it actually is, of course, but we are now in a very good place. 

I am looking forward to exploring just how we got here. 

I'm back...

It has been a year since I posted on this blog, and in that year I have been through a ridiculous number of poly pitfalls and successes that I am finally ready to write about.

The focus of the year has been on single poly people falling in love. Sounds great, right? It is, it is amazingly awesome and wonderful, but there is so damn much that I didn't know and never counted on! In the next few months I will write about jealousy and compersion, about safe-sex and, more realistically, risk-aware sex, and about building a strong relationship when non-monogamy seems to be kicking your ass.

I hope it will be informative, and helpful--I know it will be for me, because I don't know yet what I will write, and I don't know to what emotional places it will take me. What I do know is that it has been too long since I took pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard), and that Literary Wench has a lot to say!