Every relationship I have had in the past 15 years has been poly in one form or
another, and I don’t generally hide that fact, so I have had to answer my fair
share of questions. When non-poly people find out I am in a poly relationship
the most frequently asked question is always “don’t you want a man of your own?”
The answer is yes, sometimes I do. Sometimes I don’t want to work my schedule
around another woman. Sometimes I just want to see
my man when I want to see him. Sometimes I just want emotional and logistical simplicity.
But—there is always a but—the thing is that I don’t really
want monogamy. I prefer poly. If I were in a monogamous relationship I would, at
some point, want to turn it poly. I would feel completely stifled in a
monogamous relationship—maybe not right away, but it would happen. I just do not
see long-term monogamy as a viable relationship option.
I still have to deal with “sometimes.”
