A bit about crushes

I wrote this a few months ago, but I have been thinking about it a lot again lately and decided that it needed an update. When I wrote this I was in a serious relationship, and part of a poly family, and now I am single and suddenly surrounded by possibilities as some crushes show Crush potential and new crushes emerge. Life is good!
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I love crushes. I mean I really, really love them. I usually have a few, or a few dozen, going at any given time. I love them so much that my life feels a bit empty if they are not present because the energy they bring is definitely missed.

I have two types of crushes—there is the casual crush that is usually directed toward the guy I see across the commons at lunch or the girl who makes my tea at Starbucks. They are fun little in-the-moment bits of fantasy. Occasionally these crushes turn into friendships because when I am attracted to someone I usually find a way to speak with them. Sometimes the crush doesn’t survive the friendship, but every once in awhile it becomes something more—it grows up and becomes a full-fledged Crush.

A Crush is friendship with a side of possibility that need never be fulfilled. A Crush isn’t about sex, it is about feeling the energy coming off of someone and having it mesh so well with your own that you just know that this is something different—that this person will be special in your life, even if it is only for a short time.

At the moment I probably have a dozen or so crushes—including a few long standing ones on celebrities (Robert Downey Jr. anyone?) There are two customers at work, a couple of fellow teachers at the University, and, yes, even a student or two. I also have maybe half-a-dozen Crushes—2 or 3 new ones and a few that will probably exist as long as I do.

My C/crushes are not specific to gender or orientation, and they care nothing for age or physical appearance. They are not limited to people who present as dominant or submissive. There are some basic traits that I could point to that make them more likely to occur, but I have crushed on men twenty years younger than me and men 30 years older. I have crushed on submissive girls who feed me geeky puppy energy and dominant butches who make me quiver. There is just no telling what part of a person is going to speak to me. I like it that way because it means that every new person I meet has Crush potential.